Community
can be an ironic place to meet with those of like mind. In the
beginning, you are coming together, either for a common purpose, or
through a common interest in a subject, as a vast array of unique
individuals unite in a field of resonance. Everyone deserves a support
group or others to turn toward for additional companionship. Especially
when it comes to spiritual community, one deserves any degree of
nurturing support, as they maneuver through the vast and often
uncompromising landscapes of their inner journey. In the beginning, a
spiritual community is typically at its strongest potency, often
embodying the teachings that brought everyone together to explore the
deeper mysteries of existence.
Gradually, a support group of heart-centered fellowship becomes a spiritually-themed rumor mill. When this occurs, complaining and blaming seems to be a more habit-forming tendency. There are those in community, who recognize the blaming and complaints of others as the unraveling of unconsciousness. To the best of their ability, they try holding space for someone else’s experience, but soon the gift of active listening pulls the listener into the heat of the conflict to choose sides and join a social battle.
Whether you have been ostracized by the unconscious actions of a spiritual group, or you can recognize the negative tendencies you may be contributing in group settings, I offer these following insights to offer more heart-centered care for every healing heart. As you read this, please do not assume every detail must apply to you. Instead, allow your intuition to reveal the most important key points for you to embrace.
As empaths, we are so in-tune with the feelings of others and so sensitive to the precious nature of each experience that we cannot allow anyone to feel left out or remain excluded. It’s our spiritual form of Kryptonite. In attempt to make everyone feel included, the unconscious characters who blame and complain on a regular basis, claiming they just want to be heard and have a chance to “speak their truth” inevitably pull empaths into their whirlwind of blame, complaints, judgments, assumptions, accusations, and finger-pointing.
All too often, an empath loses their ground and winds up becoming a foot soldier for the agenda of unconsciousness, taking someone’s side in an argument without proof or evidence, just so the one who suffers doesn’t feel alone.
The question remains, how do you support someone engulfed in negativity, without blindly validating a standpoint that at its fundamental core, cannot be rooted in truth whenever blame, accusations, or gossip are involved?
In the evolution of consciousness, we open our eyes to truth by surrendering the need to point our fingers in any direction. If not, you’re likely to create a community like any other interest group with the only difference being an affinity for spiritual subject matters. Throughout the course of our journey, we have come way too far in our growth and expansion to lose sight of where we are headed. We literally rest on the brink of life’s deepest discovery that either unites us together as greater embodiments of our highest divine wisdom, or we become spiritual versions of victimhood in action.
Holding space for someone’s plight requires patience and focus. For many beings, they either listen to an endless array of complaints, where they eventually validate someone’s opinion, as more innocent hearts get coerced into agreeing with assumptions and projections that are presented as fact, or they attempt to coach someone out of their darkness, which often leads to greater personal conflict. Despite its deepest plea, unconsciousness doesn’t want to be rescued from the dark -- it just wants to be right.
Every heart always deserves opportunities to grow and be heard, but when someone is releasing patterns of unconsciousness, while playing it out externally, they are not in a position for greater perspective. They merely need space away from engagement to be with themselves as the healing unfolds, while they reach out for anyone to grip and convince of their viewpoint.
Unconsciousness hates being in its own space. If it spent a few moments alone, it would begin to fall apart and integrate. This is the best case scenario on a soul level and public enemy number one for the unconsciousness that attempts to stay in-tact.
Even when a heart-centered being attempts to remind the one engulfed in their own unconsciousness of their tendency to blame, assume, accuse, gossip, and judge, it is often met with a response of victimhood or martyrdom, accusing the conscious one of not giving them the freedom to speak their mind. They’ll even overly dramatize it to the point of accusing the group to be cult-like, if negativity isn’t given a constant forum to spew its venom without looking at its behavior or the effect it has on others.
As soon as empaths hear someone is left out, the tendency is to match the other person’s unconsciousness and join their side as way of helping them to feel included, accepted, and whole.
Of course, not every spiritual community is cult-like. It’s often the best excuse negativity has when not the center of everyone’s attention. A cult is defined as a group that has forgone its individuality, in favor of giving their power to a self-professed leader. While many have survived these damaging environments that first appeared spiritual in nature, a modern day spiritual teacher simply leads by example.
A true teacher acts out the very wisdom they offer – in every situation and under any circumstance. This is what allows them to be a source of inspiration for so many beings. They offer pure insight, intuitive guidance, and heart-centered support, while giving you back the power of your individuality to think and act for yourself. While you are free to be whatever individual that you choose, your journey evolves as you decide how honorable of an individual you wish to be. This cannot occur by trying to prove anything to someone embroiled in negativity, or by losing sight of your journey in attempt to rescue another.
From the standpoint of negativity, it cannot feel accepted unless others listen, agree, and join their fight. Even then, acceptance isn’t felt at all. It’s just negativity slowing its own unraveling as it is fed with more validation.
When someone is on a negative downward spiral, they are willing to misread, misperceive, and twist things around to keep them feeling justified in their argument through the activity of blame. Whether played out by an individual or a community, negativity signifies a deeper healing taking place. As it occurs, the only direction for negative energy to travel is to end up in some form of disappointment.
Judgment is the evidence of healing in progress. Disappointment represents the unraveling of unconsciousness, where the one being purged often feels deflated, as their ego is stripped of its insatiable hunger for control or more things to seek. When this occurs, it’s easy for the one who blames, accuses, stirs the pot of controversy, and makes the most noise to feel disappointed in a group or individual who didn’t agree or join them in opposition. All too often, the unconsciousness that was so desperate for the approval of others, while working to suck them into their vortex of blame, now goes to the opposite side of polarity to withdraw and shutdown.
For an empath, it can seem like a no-win situation, where if you listen long enough to someone’s complaints, you’re likely to join their side, if not totally rooted in the autonomy of your own consciousness. If you don’t agree with them, they accuse you of judgment, hoping to lure you in with feedback of feeling left out. Even when attempting to show them their own patterns at play, they often feel unheard, unrecognized, and become the most wounded victim to pull at your empathic heartstrings. Of course, never once has their unconsciousness taken inventory of their behavior or given themselves enough space to see the chaos they are stirring up.
Unconsciousness doesn’t know how to be aware, self-reflective, or even listen. It simply justifies, accuses, and fights.
Whether you find yourself in community with friends, family, or even with those of spiritual like mind, here are a few simple ways to hold space without adding to a controversy that may only exist in the mind of someone who heals unconscious patterns while identifying with it.
Tip #1: Listening is an effective tool of holding space as long as you are choosing to listen. The moment you no longer desire listening to their negativity, it is not a judgment, but your intuition saying: “You’ve given the gift of listening, but now you are beginning to match their vibration. You are no longer helpful for their healing. Instead, they are beginning to have an adverse effect on your energetic field.”
What if you said: “Thank you for sharing your point of view. I honor your passion, but I cannot listen any longer. At this moment, I am no longer helpful for your healing and I must hold space for myself. I wish you the best of luck in your journey ahead.”
You might think: “If I said that, they would be disappointed.”
You are correct. That would most likely disappoint them, but you aren’t the one disappointing them at all. Disappointment is the next stage of healing that unfolds as patterns of judgment are unraveled, which occurs when the one seeking attention or validation for their blame is no longer fed by others.
It is inevitable that unconsciousness transitions from the compulsive and aggressive darkness of judgment into the obsessive and wounded terrain of disappointment. While everyone deserves more love not less, even if a group of angelic beings were to surround a negative person with healing light, it couldn’t prevent the disappointment that is paramount to the ego’s surrender.
Without fail or effort, you are bound to disappoint someone who is just looking for more things to pick apart. The key is making sure you are choosing to listen, while being present with listening, as an evolving skill for your journey, without being so invested in their healing that you forget to hold space for yourself. The appearance of other people exist in your field of reality to offer you the chance to practice being consciousness in action. One of the prime skills empaths are learning is how to be honest and heart-centered at the same time. Many empaths would believe that if someone felt unheard or left out, they must not have done their job as an ambassador of love.
In reality, a venomous character is here to help give an empath back their power. This occurs by offering you a chance to choose from a space of freedom and speak as openly and honestly as you would like to be addressed, while not allowing their unconscious stand point to pull you into chaos.
Negative people are bound to be disappointed. They are spiritual target practice for those who are learning to be as honest as they are loving, without the fear of someone’s disappointment or self-imposed exclusion pulling you away from seeing the opportunity they are offering you.
Only listen when you choose to listen. If you cannot be what someone needs from you, the moment you say no with honor and humility and walk away, the Universe creates a new character or situation to be for that person whatever they need most. Ultimately, they are the listener they are searching for, but until that realization dawns, you most likely won’t be the first or even the last person to not give them what they want. Your choice may not be what the character desires, but it will always be the perfect catalyst they need for their journey ahead.
Tip #2: Align with the truth of your own direct experience. Just because someone else cries foul play doesn’t mean it actually happened. If you are not having the same experience as others, investigate their claims for yourself. Other people may act as animated yelp reviews, but it is important to not just adopt someone else’s experience without having your own experience to go by. Dare to be your own investigative reporter by going directly to the source in question for information, instead of gathering ideas and beliefs from the perceptions of others. Sometimes, people act as whistle blowers for the unsavory or devious activities that others cannot see. Meanwhile, the majority of complaints are merely someone’s misperception of reality they insist to be fact as a way of justifying their tendency to fight, judge, gossip, or oppose.
Tip #3: Even though you can feel the insufferable experience of another, you cannot control their reality or do any of their inner work for them. In community, we are here to support, encourage, honor, and love as an externalized practice of saying to others the words we’ve waited our entire lives to hear. This does not require you to become an accomplice in someone’s agenda. A character can appear to be interested in spiritual growth, but where are they making time to become the highest version of their Soul’s potential when engulfed in negativity, judgment, accusation, gossip, and blame?
You cannot make anyone see what they refuse to see. All you can do is see the opportunity they are giving you, which is to only act from a space of choice and speak as honestly as you are loving, without blaming yourself for someone’s disappointment, feelings of abandonment, or experience of exclusion.
Tip#4: Do not obligate yourself to give advice to someone who is lost in negativity. Judgment and criticism lets you know on a soul level that they are currently unable to take in anything insightful. Instead of trying to be their rescuer, merely be a supporter, who responds to their negativity with an honest compliment for their innocence to receive. As people feel a greater sense of self-worth, negativity dissolves.
Even if you said: “I don’t have a solution for you and it ok that we see things differently. Thank you for letting me know how you feel. I send blessings your way and rest in knowing that you will come out of this better than ever before.”
In essence, the best advice that most negative people actually need is just a moment of positive encouragement. While everyone has the right to feel however they feel, you don’t have to validate their behavior as being rational, no matter how quickly they accuse you of judging them.
Tip #5: For heart-centered beings, other people’s criticism is not a reflection of anything you did wrong or something unresolved in you. This gets tricky because the people who are most negative have such an inflated and obscured view of themselves that they believe they are the heart-centered ones being persecuted by others who simply won’t join their fight.
Negative people know their potential as heart-centered beings, while refusing to demonstrate it publicly. Equally so, empaths can feel the Divinity in negative people, while misunderstanding their intuition as judgments. It’s not a judgment to acknowledge where someone is in their journey, no matter how much potential or Divinity you can feel within them.
The most honorable choice is relating and responding to who people are in their actions right now, instead of making excuses for their behavior, while blinded by the possibility of who they could become. The key is to always speak to others with the words, tone, and candor that you would like someone to offer you. As long as that occurs, you are acting from a space of personal integrity.
If you aren’t able to do so, then your inability to speak honestly, openly, and thoughtfully indicates that you held space too long, bypassing your ability to choose, and then responded from an unconscious space of matching their vibration.
Tip #6 – As soon as you are done listening, engaging, or indulging someone’s negativity, remove yourself from their presence and embrace your heart. Taking time to love your own heart not only offers distance healing on an energetic level to any degree of negativity, but it also cleanses your field of anything you helped them release. When negative people are ruthless, repetitive, and close-minded in public, we assist in their healing by embracing our own hearts in private.
Again, they are on their own unique journey, so they are not reflecting anything negative in you. They are reflecting an opportunity for you to strengthen the muscles of your most conscious conduct by being patient, thoughtful, honest, and caring, as long it feels like choice versus an obligation. The moment you do something out of obligation, nothing you do will have permanent or long-lasting effect in their journey. Especially since, obligation is an extension of conformity, which is a tenant of fear. In most cases, we obligate ourselves to do for others to avoid the fear of being rejected, ridiculed, or excluded. Instead of acting in avoidance of fear, choose to see it as an opportunity to love the one who is afraid to speak or stand in their highest truth.
On an energetic level, you may sense having endured punishment or even death for speaking or standing for your truth in past incarnations, but this lifetime proves that you have survived those chapters of persecution. You are here, in a paradigm of evolving consciousness, where it is safe to stand in your truth, as long as you are not relying on the unconscious of others to feed you with approval.
Through these insights and with practice engaging with souls at various levels of maturity, you can learn to hone your empathic abilities, and strengthen the power of your intuitive discernment, while discovering the courage to demonstrate your highest wisdom in action, no matter how misguided others around you seem to be. When judgment, criticism, condemnation, or gossip is active, there is no truth being spoken or considered. It is merely the activity of unconsciousness unraveling in those who act out the very patterns they blame in others.
Hold space if you wish, only listen for as long as you desire, while always remembering your willingness to love yourself more often as the greatest assistance you may offer to any healing heart. May we come together in community to practice the very teachings that unite us, instead of turning our sacred space into a toxic environment, despite our interest in something more meaningful, authentic, and fulfilling.
If you are interested in spiritual exploration, then you are open to acting out the wisdom that you receive to the best of your ability and eager to practice what you learn for the evolution of the whole without being too hard on yourself. In a modern day spiritual journey, we don’t blame, we simply deepen our practices of self-love, no matter the risk or consequence.
This is what it means to return to the light. As always, you must step into the light, in order for others to find their way home. You are not abandoning complainers or closing your heart in any way. While it may seem as if you are turning away from someone in need, you are simply facing the direction of your highest destiny and leading the way for the wellbeing of all.
Matt Kahn
www.TrueDivineNature.com
Gradually, a support group of heart-centered fellowship becomes a spiritually-themed rumor mill. When this occurs, complaining and blaming seems to be a more habit-forming tendency. There are those in community, who recognize the blaming and complaints of others as the unraveling of unconsciousness. To the best of their ability, they try holding space for someone else’s experience, but soon the gift of active listening pulls the listener into the heat of the conflict to choose sides and join a social battle.
Whether you have been ostracized by the unconscious actions of a spiritual group, or you can recognize the negative tendencies you may be contributing in group settings, I offer these following insights to offer more heart-centered care for every healing heart. As you read this, please do not assume every detail must apply to you. Instead, allow your intuition to reveal the most important key points for you to embrace.
As empaths, we are so in-tune with the feelings of others and so sensitive to the precious nature of each experience that we cannot allow anyone to feel left out or remain excluded. It’s our spiritual form of Kryptonite. In attempt to make everyone feel included, the unconscious characters who blame and complain on a regular basis, claiming they just want to be heard and have a chance to “speak their truth” inevitably pull empaths into their whirlwind of blame, complaints, judgments, assumptions, accusations, and finger-pointing.
All too often, an empath loses their ground and winds up becoming a foot soldier for the agenda of unconsciousness, taking someone’s side in an argument without proof or evidence, just so the one who suffers doesn’t feel alone.
The question remains, how do you support someone engulfed in negativity, without blindly validating a standpoint that at its fundamental core, cannot be rooted in truth whenever blame, accusations, or gossip are involved?
In the evolution of consciousness, we open our eyes to truth by surrendering the need to point our fingers in any direction. If not, you’re likely to create a community like any other interest group with the only difference being an affinity for spiritual subject matters. Throughout the course of our journey, we have come way too far in our growth and expansion to lose sight of where we are headed. We literally rest on the brink of life’s deepest discovery that either unites us together as greater embodiments of our highest divine wisdom, or we become spiritual versions of victimhood in action.
Holding space for someone’s plight requires patience and focus. For many beings, they either listen to an endless array of complaints, where they eventually validate someone’s opinion, as more innocent hearts get coerced into agreeing with assumptions and projections that are presented as fact, or they attempt to coach someone out of their darkness, which often leads to greater personal conflict. Despite its deepest plea, unconsciousness doesn’t want to be rescued from the dark -- it just wants to be right.
Every heart always deserves opportunities to grow and be heard, but when someone is releasing patterns of unconsciousness, while playing it out externally, they are not in a position for greater perspective. They merely need space away from engagement to be with themselves as the healing unfolds, while they reach out for anyone to grip and convince of their viewpoint.
Unconsciousness hates being in its own space. If it spent a few moments alone, it would begin to fall apart and integrate. This is the best case scenario on a soul level and public enemy number one for the unconsciousness that attempts to stay in-tact.
Even when a heart-centered being attempts to remind the one engulfed in their own unconsciousness of their tendency to blame, assume, accuse, gossip, and judge, it is often met with a response of victimhood or martyrdom, accusing the conscious one of not giving them the freedom to speak their mind. They’ll even overly dramatize it to the point of accusing the group to be cult-like, if negativity isn’t given a constant forum to spew its venom without looking at its behavior or the effect it has on others.
As soon as empaths hear someone is left out, the tendency is to match the other person’s unconsciousness and join their side as way of helping them to feel included, accepted, and whole.
Of course, not every spiritual community is cult-like. It’s often the best excuse negativity has when not the center of everyone’s attention. A cult is defined as a group that has forgone its individuality, in favor of giving their power to a self-professed leader. While many have survived these damaging environments that first appeared spiritual in nature, a modern day spiritual teacher simply leads by example.
A true teacher acts out the very wisdom they offer – in every situation and under any circumstance. This is what allows them to be a source of inspiration for so many beings. They offer pure insight, intuitive guidance, and heart-centered support, while giving you back the power of your individuality to think and act for yourself. While you are free to be whatever individual that you choose, your journey evolves as you decide how honorable of an individual you wish to be. This cannot occur by trying to prove anything to someone embroiled in negativity, or by losing sight of your journey in attempt to rescue another.
From the standpoint of negativity, it cannot feel accepted unless others listen, agree, and join their fight. Even then, acceptance isn’t felt at all. It’s just negativity slowing its own unraveling as it is fed with more validation.
When someone is on a negative downward spiral, they are willing to misread, misperceive, and twist things around to keep them feeling justified in their argument through the activity of blame. Whether played out by an individual or a community, negativity signifies a deeper healing taking place. As it occurs, the only direction for negative energy to travel is to end up in some form of disappointment.
Judgment is the evidence of healing in progress. Disappointment represents the unraveling of unconsciousness, where the one being purged often feels deflated, as their ego is stripped of its insatiable hunger for control or more things to seek. When this occurs, it’s easy for the one who blames, accuses, stirs the pot of controversy, and makes the most noise to feel disappointed in a group or individual who didn’t agree or join them in opposition. All too often, the unconsciousness that was so desperate for the approval of others, while working to suck them into their vortex of blame, now goes to the opposite side of polarity to withdraw and shutdown.
For an empath, it can seem like a no-win situation, where if you listen long enough to someone’s complaints, you’re likely to join their side, if not totally rooted in the autonomy of your own consciousness. If you don’t agree with them, they accuse you of judgment, hoping to lure you in with feedback of feeling left out. Even when attempting to show them their own patterns at play, they often feel unheard, unrecognized, and become the most wounded victim to pull at your empathic heartstrings. Of course, never once has their unconsciousness taken inventory of their behavior or given themselves enough space to see the chaos they are stirring up.
Unconsciousness doesn’t know how to be aware, self-reflective, or even listen. It simply justifies, accuses, and fights.
Whether you find yourself in community with friends, family, or even with those of spiritual like mind, here are a few simple ways to hold space without adding to a controversy that may only exist in the mind of someone who heals unconscious patterns while identifying with it.
Tip #1: Listening is an effective tool of holding space as long as you are choosing to listen. The moment you no longer desire listening to their negativity, it is not a judgment, but your intuition saying: “You’ve given the gift of listening, but now you are beginning to match their vibration. You are no longer helpful for their healing. Instead, they are beginning to have an adverse effect on your energetic field.”
What if you said: “Thank you for sharing your point of view. I honor your passion, but I cannot listen any longer. At this moment, I am no longer helpful for your healing and I must hold space for myself. I wish you the best of luck in your journey ahead.”
You might think: “If I said that, they would be disappointed.”
You are correct. That would most likely disappoint them, but you aren’t the one disappointing them at all. Disappointment is the next stage of healing that unfolds as patterns of judgment are unraveled, which occurs when the one seeking attention or validation for their blame is no longer fed by others.
It is inevitable that unconsciousness transitions from the compulsive and aggressive darkness of judgment into the obsessive and wounded terrain of disappointment. While everyone deserves more love not less, even if a group of angelic beings were to surround a negative person with healing light, it couldn’t prevent the disappointment that is paramount to the ego’s surrender.
Without fail or effort, you are bound to disappoint someone who is just looking for more things to pick apart. The key is making sure you are choosing to listen, while being present with listening, as an evolving skill for your journey, without being so invested in their healing that you forget to hold space for yourself. The appearance of other people exist in your field of reality to offer you the chance to practice being consciousness in action. One of the prime skills empaths are learning is how to be honest and heart-centered at the same time. Many empaths would believe that if someone felt unheard or left out, they must not have done their job as an ambassador of love.
In reality, a venomous character is here to help give an empath back their power. This occurs by offering you a chance to choose from a space of freedom and speak as openly and honestly as you would like to be addressed, while not allowing their unconscious stand point to pull you into chaos.
Negative people are bound to be disappointed. They are spiritual target practice for those who are learning to be as honest as they are loving, without the fear of someone’s disappointment or self-imposed exclusion pulling you away from seeing the opportunity they are offering you.
Only listen when you choose to listen. If you cannot be what someone needs from you, the moment you say no with honor and humility and walk away, the Universe creates a new character or situation to be for that person whatever they need most. Ultimately, they are the listener they are searching for, but until that realization dawns, you most likely won’t be the first or even the last person to not give them what they want. Your choice may not be what the character desires, but it will always be the perfect catalyst they need for their journey ahead.
Tip #2: Align with the truth of your own direct experience. Just because someone else cries foul play doesn’t mean it actually happened. If you are not having the same experience as others, investigate their claims for yourself. Other people may act as animated yelp reviews, but it is important to not just adopt someone else’s experience without having your own experience to go by. Dare to be your own investigative reporter by going directly to the source in question for information, instead of gathering ideas and beliefs from the perceptions of others. Sometimes, people act as whistle blowers for the unsavory or devious activities that others cannot see. Meanwhile, the majority of complaints are merely someone’s misperception of reality they insist to be fact as a way of justifying their tendency to fight, judge, gossip, or oppose.
Tip #3: Even though you can feel the insufferable experience of another, you cannot control their reality or do any of their inner work for them. In community, we are here to support, encourage, honor, and love as an externalized practice of saying to others the words we’ve waited our entire lives to hear. This does not require you to become an accomplice in someone’s agenda. A character can appear to be interested in spiritual growth, but where are they making time to become the highest version of their Soul’s potential when engulfed in negativity, judgment, accusation, gossip, and blame?
You cannot make anyone see what they refuse to see. All you can do is see the opportunity they are giving you, which is to only act from a space of choice and speak as honestly as you are loving, without blaming yourself for someone’s disappointment, feelings of abandonment, or experience of exclusion.
Tip#4: Do not obligate yourself to give advice to someone who is lost in negativity. Judgment and criticism lets you know on a soul level that they are currently unable to take in anything insightful. Instead of trying to be their rescuer, merely be a supporter, who responds to their negativity with an honest compliment for their innocence to receive. As people feel a greater sense of self-worth, negativity dissolves.
Even if you said: “I don’t have a solution for you and it ok that we see things differently. Thank you for letting me know how you feel. I send blessings your way and rest in knowing that you will come out of this better than ever before.”
In essence, the best advice that most negative people actually need is just a moment of positive encouragement. While everyone has the right to feel however they feel, you don’t have to validate their behavior as being rational, no matter how quickly they accuse you of judging them.
Tip #5: For heart-centered beings, other people’s criticism is not a reflection of anything you did wrong or something unresolved in you. This gets tricky because the people who are most negative have such an inflated and obscured view of themselves that they believe they are the heart-centered ones being persecuted by others who simply won’t join their fight.
Negative people know their potential as heart-centered beings, while refusing to demonstrate it publicly. Equally so, empaths can feel the Divinity in negative people, while misunderstanding their intuition as judgments. It’s not a judgment to acknowledge where someone is in their journey, no matter how much potential or Divinity you can feel within them.
The most honorable choice is relating and responding to who people are in their actions right now, instead of making excuses for their behavior, while blinded by the possibility of who they could become. The key is to always speak to others with the words, tone, and candor that you would like someone to offer you. As long as that occurs, you are acting from a space of personal integrity.
If you aren’t able to do so, then your inability to speak honestly, openly, and thoughtfully indicates that you held space too long, bypassing your ability to choose, and then responded from an unconscious space of matching their vibration.
Tip #6 – As soon as you are done listening, engaging, or indulging someone’s negativity, remove yourself from their presence and embrace your heart. Taking time to love your own heart not only offers distance healing on an energetic level to any degree of negativity, but it also cleanses your field of anything you helped them release. When negative people are ruthless, repetitive, and close-minded in public, we assist in their healing by embracing our own hearts in private.
Again, they are on their own unique journey, so they are not reflecting anything negative in you. They are reflecting an opportunity for you to strengthen the muscles of your most conscious conduct by being patient, thoughtful, honest, and caring, as long it feels like choice versus an obligation. The moment you do something out of obligation, nothing you do will have permanent or long-lasting effect in their journey. Especially since, obligation is an extension of conformity, which is a tenant of fear. In most cases, we obligate ourselves to do for others to avoid the fear of being rejected, ridiculed, or excluded. Instead of acting in avoidance of fear, choose to see it as an opportunity to love the one who is afraid to speak or stand in their highest truth.
On an energetic level, you may sense having endured punishment or even death for speaking or standing for your truth in past incarnations, but this lifetime proves that you have survived those chapters of persecution. You are here, in a paradigm of evolving consciousness, where it is safe to stand in your truth, as long as you are not relying on the unconscious of others to feed you with approval.
Through these insights and with practice engaging with souls at various levels of maturity, you can learn to hone your empathic abilities, and strengthen the power of your intuitive discernment, while discovering the courage to demonstrate your highest wisdom in action, no matter how misguided others around you seem to be. When judgment, criticism, condemnation, or gossip is active, there is no truth being spoken or considered. It is merely the activity of unconsciousness unraveling in those who act out the very patterns they blame in others.
Hold space if you wish, only listen for as long as you desire, while always remembering your willingness to love yourself more often as the greatest assistance you may offer to any healing heart. May we come together in community to practice the very teachings that unite us, instead of turning our sacred space into a toxic environment, despite our interest in something more meaningful, authentic, and fulfilling.
If you are interested in spiritual exploration, then you are open to acting out the wisdom that you receive to the best of your ability and eager to practice what you learn for the evolution of the whole without being too hard on yourself. In a modern day spiritual journey, we don’t blame, we simply deepen our practices of self-love, no matter the risk or consequence.
This is what it means to return to the light. As always, you must step into the light, in order for others to find their way home. You are not abandoning complainers or closing your heart in any way. While it may seem as if you are turning away from someone in need, you are simply facing the direction of your highest destiny and leading the way for the wellbeing of all.
Matt Kahn
www.TrueDivineNature.com
